Happy Father’s Day!

21 June 2009 in Uncategorized

Be sure to spend some family time today, and honor your Dad.  At least 52 countries observe Father’s Day around the world, and it’s a day to honor our dads and their role as a parent.

Dadsworld’s purpose is to promote involved Dads and help change the media perception and portrayal of Dads.  Loving, caring and involved Dads are everywhere, and we fill an extremely important role in families.  Families are the building blocks of a civilized society, and Dads are a key component to those blocks.

We see a lot of media attention and praise given to single mothers, single fathers, same sex couples, etc. but you can’t build a successful, healthy society with those as the standard.  No.  The STANDARD is a loving, involved 2 parent family with a Mother and a Father.

Moms and Dads each fill different roles, and have different styles and influences on their children.  BOTH are necessary to raise healthy, well-adjusted children.  That’s the IDEAL. 

Way too many people are having children without a strong, committed and involved family.  That’s not fair to the children, and it’s not fair to the rest of us in society who will end up caring for and dealing with those children as they grow into adulthood.  Check out our statistics page for more details on just how important an intact family is to all of us.

I am so sick of the “anything goes and that’s okay” mentality that exists today.  We need to get down to basics, values and fundamentals.  Creating a family is a HUGE responsibility that should be taken very seriously.  I am outraged by the number of people who casually give life, only to neglect and mistreat that life.  If a person can’t make a consistent committment to creating a family and take the time and care to raise, guide, lead, love and nurture their children, then that person should not have children in the first place.  Pretty simple and obvious statement.

I hope that you are an involved Dad, or had an involved Dad.  I wish you the best.  Dadsworld.com wants people to make good decisions, and to honor those Dads who have.  The world needs more great dads, and many thanks are due to those of you who are.

Keep spreading the word about the importance of Dads, and may your own children grow up respecting Dads, and be taught many valuable lessons by you.  What you give your children will outlive yourself.  Be sure to give them the good stuff.

21 June 2009 Uncategorized

3 Comments to Happy Father’s Day!

  1. I just stumbled upon this site and like what I see of it so far. The message of this article is clear and I cannot agree more that being a good father (husband, too)is very important.

    I lost my father in March of 1980 and still miss him to this day, but his influence is very strong on me. I hope that I can do the same for my wonderful daughter as my dad did for me!!!

    2. Bob on 21 June 2009

  2. Thanks for promoting the very important role of dads in the lives of our kids, and in our families’ lives. No doubt that dads carry a huge responsibility, an irreplaceable role, and that us dads need to stand up for our contribution, extend our reach into the PTA and classrooms, and be present in the lives of our children.

    We must also stand up for teaching our children values that are loving and kind; compassionate and firm; self-reliant and collaborative; nurturing and courageous. And those values don’t rest only within what you called in today’s post the ’standard’ of a two parent family of a mother and a father. Only in the last few decades has ‘family’ meant this so-called ‘nuclear family’ of our silly sitcoms on TV. What family really is is a group of people dedicated and committed to the well-being of each other, lived over time, with love.

    I just read your post about Father’s Day after having lunch with my friend, who’s married to his male partner, and they are raising a wonderful young boy in their family. I have a single mom friend who has adopted two young people, and recently placed her living-together-friend, not partner, and the kids’ ‘Aunty’, into a nursing home due to her severe arthritis, so my friend is raising these two young people alone now and doing a good job.

    And here’s the thing–the size and shape of family 200 years ago consisted of nearly 40 people living together in one place! There were uncles and aunts, grammas and grampas, cousins, friends, gay and straight, married and courting, all together. Recent research in the actual structure of our brains and how they develop has shown that we are physically wired for MORE relations, not just a connection with dear old mom and dad.

    Only our very short-sighted viewpoint that ‘our way is the only way’ would allow us to think that one definition of family is the ‘right’ definition. Clearly, reaching far back in history, and all the way forward to my lunch with my friend today that ‘right’ definition isn’t big enough to include what family really means. Families are the building blocks of communities, and those communities throughout history and including today consist of a myriad of shapes, sizes, colors and flavors.

    This doesn’t diminish or threaten any shape of family. What it calls on us to do is to see beyond our heterosexual stereotype of what is ‘right’, and instead be a full human being, engaged with others, learning who they are as people, not preaching how we can squeeze them into our narrow notion of what constitutes a moral person or a ‘real’ family. That is not the unity that I would want my children to live in, and certainly not a kind of unity I would want to teach my four children.

    As dads, with so much riding on our contribution to our children’s lives and the future of our world, we must teach our children the value of honoring other’s paths in life, including their chosen path in whatever shape ‘family’ means for them.

    3. Don on 22 June 2009

  3. Well said. I agree with most of what you are saying, but still stand behind my statement that the “standard,” (note that I didn’t say “only,”) structure that statistically benefits children the most is the 2 parent intact family. Certainly a single parent can do a wonderful job, as can a couple consisting of two men or two women. But the stats say the most secure (emotionally and financially) is a two parent family, preferably the biological parents. That’s the ideal, proven by the data.

    In the real world, however; we will have a lot of different combinations, but Dadsworld can’t be everything to everyone. We have decided to promote Dads, involved Dads who are a part of a 2 parent family. That’s our niche. There are plenty of websites promoting Moms, single parents, etc. But there are NOT a lot of sites promoting Dads. Dads who are a part of a family are continually belittled and maligned by the mainstream press. They are not portrayed as loving, knowledgeable (in parenting) and nurturing. They are portrayed as detached, self-absorbed and immature. In my experience, and the experience of my circle of friends and contacts, that’s simply inaccurate. It’s also damaging to children.

    Dadsworld is here to help promote Dads, and change that ridiculous image that’s being promoted on nearly every sit-com and advertisement and movie on television.

    I appreciate your well thought-out post and your time. Thanks for supporting Dadsworld and involved Dads. :)

    4. Rick on 22 June 2009

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