Dadsworld Philosophy

2) Encourage Dads to take the initiative and be involved.  Be the type of Dad that deserves praise. 3)  Provide a website that offers information, ideas and advice that also entertains Dads.  

We are not going to read long disertations about fathering tips and parenting styles.  We will, however, check out a fun, masculine website full of useful and entertaining information. 
 

So often lately it seems our culture will uplift, praise, encourage and accept the behavior of the small percentile groups, while completely ignoring the obvious majority and their vastly larger contribution to society in general.  The majority of people (I believe) are good, kind-hearted and well-meaning.  They want to be completely involved in raising their children, and they want their children to turn out well.  By well I mean; healthy, successful, kind, generous, loving, responsible and honest.  So, why are we having so much trouble?  Well-meaning people seem to have difficulty following through with their good intentions. 

It comes down to 3 things for me.  Family, commitment and self-sacrifice. 

Without intact family’s, when people are not fully committed, and when people are selfish things go wrong.  We need intact families with committed parents who are self-less.  These things exist and are still (though barely) the majority out there in America, but they are falling apart and we need to turn the trends around.  I’m all for encouraging and helping people who find themselves in a difficult situation, like single (never married) parents, but how far are we going to take this?   Never married single parents are not and should not be the majority.  We cannot sustain our society at the level we would all like if that becomes the norm.  Check the stats!  At what point does encouragement and help become PROMOTION?  Are we promoting the right things as far as family’s go?  Have we come to the point where the intact 2 parent family is actually thought of as “old fashioned”?  Many young people surveyed think it’s completely legitimate for a woman to have a baby without a spouse if she wants to.  Out of wedlock pregnancy is on the rise, not only in fact but in acceptance with our younger generations. The problem is that this is a pregnancy without a commitment.  That baby will be worse-off in every single measurable category (health, income, drug use, physical abuse, education level, divorce, sexual abuse, etc.) than babies from intact, committed families.  You see I believe it’s not the entire society’s responsibility to raise your child and meet your financial needs.  It’s YOUR responsibility.  Jim Rohn, the excellent motivational speaker and teacher said something that I really believe is important.  He said “I used to go by the philosophy of I’ll take care of you if you will take care of me’.  I soon found out how shallow and short sighted that was.  What we need is the philosophy that says ‘I’ll take care of me for you if you will please take care of you for me.’”   That’s right.  Self-responsibility!  

With self-responsibility we must have self-sacrifice if we are to be successful in raising our children.  We MUST grow out of the “me, me, me” stage of life and mature into an adult capable of delaying gratification and sacrificing things yourself for the benefit of your family.  We must have a society where the world revolves around families, not individuals.  A strong family unit is paramount in raising well adjusted children, and having many of these families is the foundation for a successful civilized society.  A lot of people today don’t seem to understand this.  They apparently think that anything goes, and that’s fine with them.  What they don’t realize is they are helping to destroy the very society that permits their freedom of choice, so future generations may not have it at all